Who wants a 3-way

I am dating a man who really knows what I like. However, he has recently asked me to try having a threesome. I am ok with doing it but I don't know anything about finding the third. Should I try and ask a friend or go to a bar and look for a girl? And how do I bring the subject up?

Horny but Unsure

The pros of having a friend participate in a threesome: you know what they look like, and you are relatively sure they aren’t a thief or an axe murderer. Now the cons: your friend will only participate if she is into your boyfriend or you. That makes friendships, relationships and all ships in general iffy. Under most circumstances women only participate in sex acts if there is some sort of relationship involved. Let’s say for the sake of argument a guy and a girl are fuck buddies. He tells his friends “it’s cool we are just fuck buddies”. She tells her friends “I am screwing Joey, I can’t wait until Chandler finds out”, or “we are just having sex right now but I can tell he really likes me”. As a people, women are much less able to separate sex from emotional stuff (not necessarily love). I accept that there may be exceptions to this rule but they are just that, exceptions. For whatever reason (people argue incessantly about why) women rarely if ever have no strings attached sex for the sake of having no strings attached sex. That’s why the porn industry is directed towards men, they are the porn market. Women may pick something up for a bacholerette party (can anyone say penis water-gun?), but they don’t regularly spend money on porn.

If you need a third and you want a woman to be that third you have your work cut out for you. I wouldn’t suggest a friend because of all the ship business I mentioned before. I am going to ask you to NOT go to a lesbian bar, please, as a personal favor to me. I can tell you we have all been asked before. If there is a lesbian or bisexual who likes to have threesomes with a man/woman couple I’m sure she has a waitlist longer than your lifespan. You just have to ask yourself what is in it for this third person. If the answer is one time anonymous sex then, you probably won’t find any woman willing to do that. I have two suggestions that I’m certain will work. The first is a prostitute. What is in it for her? Money, and it’s her job, easy peasy. Option #2 is find another woman who wants to please her man with a three-way and you scratch her muffin (while her husband watches) and she scratches yours (this time while your boyfriend watches).

Broaching the subject with a prostitute would be easier than slicing bread. Finding a prostitute may be harder. I suggest calling all those “escort” girls in the yellow pages and asking if they would “escort” you and your boyfriend at the same time. There is no way they are all legit. If you’re too cheap to pay a professional then an online personal add is the way to go. Be sure to mention you are willing to be a third for another couple and hope to god your parents aren’t into that sort of thing.

Good luck