Mind Your Own Business 101

Stealing questions from Dear Margo sure is getting lame; someone in internet land needs to send me something more creative.

I'm presently being faced with a situation I feel could jeopardize my relationship with my best friend, "Luella," and my fiancé, "Igor."

Igor and Luella's husband, "Sam," work at the same company together. That is how I was introduced to Igor. My guy has stated on several occasions that Sam is going to leave Luella. He lies to her about when he gets off work and what he is doing, and with whom.

Igor finally had to tell Sam that he could no longer tell Igor what he's up to unless he wanted it relayed to me. My relationship with Luella goes back 14 years. What is the best way (if any) to tell my friend what is going on?

--- HATING THE DRAMA

Dear Hating,

Stay out of it. “Sam” could be just blowing of steam. He isn’t saying any of these things to “Luella”. If you were to relay the things you have heard Sam would just accuse you of lying and destroy your friendship. Concentrate on your own relationship with “Igor”, and stay out of Sam and Luella’s.

One last thing; I googled baby names and came up with 53,000,000 hits. You couldn’t come up with anything better than “Igor” and “Luella”?