Save The Bikini Clad Cheerleader Save The World

This came from Dear Margo

DEAR MARGO: My husband and I are having a dispute. There is an NFL cheerleader who works in his office. I met her once at a company Christmas party, and she was quite rude to me.

Between that and comments made by my husband and some co-workers wondering how she got a nice office with very little actual work to do, I don't like her.

Every year, she sells signed team cheerleader calendars (girls in bikinis, or less). My husband bought one last year, and it was on the wall for only five minutes before I took it down. I do not want it hanging in my house, especially since he knows her.

Now he's bought another calendar for 2007. He says "guys think those things are cool" and it "earns him man points." Am I being too sensitive, or is he being a pig? -- Frustrated in Virginia

Dear Frustrated,

There are two issues that you can’t reasonably be mad about. They are: how hot this cheerleader is, and that your husband looks at other women (including said cheerleader). Women sometimes get a weird jealousy/envy thing with other very attractive women. Yes, very attractive women (and men, although to a lesser degree) have advantages the rest of us do not. There are also advantages to being intelligent, athletic, or talented but nobody bitches when someone takes advantage of those traits. In fact, they are often more upset when those gifts are not used to their full potential. Why should attractiveness be any different?

Yes, your husband does look at her. Given that he doubts the integrity (or even the reality) of her work you should take comfort in the fact that while he is looking at her he still doesn’t seem to think a whole lot of her. There is no need for you to feel threatened. That being said, there is no reason for him to fling bikini calendars in your face either.

In short, you are being a little too sensitive and he is being a little bit of a pig. I think a fair compromise would be for him to hang his calendar in an area where you rarely, if ever go. Tell him if you regularly stumble upon it (without snooping) then you have the right to draw little armpit hairs, black eyes, navy tattoos, or beer guts on the bikini clad cheerleaders.